Feb. 20, 2022

E216: Understanding Disappointment and how to move forward | Trauma Healing Coach

In this episode, I talk about understanding disappointment and how to move forward. I will share and read this article for you today as the podcast. The hardest part about the personal growth journey is that it is a battle of you versus you. We all...
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In this episode, I talk about understanding disappointment and how to move forward. I will share and read this article for you today as the podcast.

The hardest part about the personal growth journey is that it is a battle of you versus you. We all make promises to ourselves that we break, but I believe we all have the potential and power to step into building that thing inside of us that we crave and more so deserve.

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Transcript

Perhaps the most significant dilemma we face as human beings is the juxtaposition of reconciling disappointment with ourselves without shame and guilt. We have all faced the reality of her in decisions that have led to a place of sadness, despair and even grief for ourselves.

So, this is from an article that I wrote called understanding disappointment that was published in best Holistic Life Magazine, last year and I never shared this with you guys, I'm really excited to share this. I was digging through some stuff as I was unpacking, so this came out in spring of 2021 so almost a year ago. Actually I was digging through some stuff unpacking and I came across this magazine I was like, oh, I forgot I got published in that and I decided to put it on my bookshelf and I'm like, looking at some if you're online you can see photos of me one is from Bali and the other one I believe is Vietnam, I don't remember. There are still copies of this if you want to get one, you go on Amazon and you search Best Holistic Life Magazine, it's from Spring 2021.

So I'm going to read this article for you today as the podcast and before I do that I just want to say of course, thank you all so much for all the support. I got amazing news the other day. I got an email and Think Unbroken Podcast is now in the top 100 podcast in four different countries, which is amazing and we're number one, ten in America. So we're growing and that's because of you guys, and that's for every one that listens so thank you so much.

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So here it is, it's very simple.

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It's my honor, it's my pleasure. Thank you, and thank you for leaving a review means the world to me. All right, so I'm gonna get on this article that I wrote titled understanding disappointment.

Perhaps the most significant dilemma we face as human beings is the juxtaposition of reconciling disappointment with ourselves without shame or guilt. We've all faced the reality of our own decisions that have led to a place of sadness, despair and even grief, for ourselves.

The hardest part about the personal growth journey is that it is a battle of you versus you. We all make promises to ourselves that we break. Trust me when I say that I have broken more promises than I could ever begin to count like everyone I have faced, brutal disappointment in my choices. I think about the bitter rock bottom I endured and overcame when I was deep in the spiral of the vortex almost a decade ago. I was 26, had just stepped away from a fortune 10 company and was figuratively standing in the middle of burning down my own home. I was 350 pounds, smoking two packs of cigarettes a day, drinking myself to sleep and having multiple panic attacks. At that moment, I realized as I stepped into the bathroom and turn towards the mirror that the wide face dying person in the reflection was not me but an imposter that I had allowed to take over because I was afraid that I was allowed to be me. I was scared that for once, I didn't have to always be so bitterly did a disappointed in myself. I had to ask myself the most challenging question I've ever asked. What are you going to do about it?

When faced with the truth of your own choices, there's a conversation to be had about going out of your way and doing hard things that will push you into creating the life that you want to have. At some point you're going to have to stand up for yourself to yourself. Yes, I realized that as much more difficult than it sounds but the truth is that if you want to create a different understanding of who you are you will have to make a different you. We all have the potential and power within us to step into building that thing inside of us that we crave and more so deserve. People will often say start with why? Why do you want to change, heal, grow, etc.? But I challenge to start with hope, grace and an unwavering choice to move forward, no matter what. You deserve to have the life you want to have and unfortunately, disappointment is a part of everyone's narrative. But if you take anything with you take this, you cannot change the past as much as I wish, I could step into a time machine and erase our mistakes, we can't but we can't allow ourselves the grace to let them go and more importantly, learn from them.

Being human entitles you the power to adapt and in adaptation comes change and in change comes transformation. If you want to stop disappointing yourself, then you have to stop disappointing yourself. You have the power to be great but will you allow yourself the space to learn on the way up? I hope you will. If I know anything about healing is that tomorrow you don't have to be the person you are today, but today with grace and hope ask yourself.

What am I willing to do to have the life that I want to have?

So that was from an article that I was lucky enough unfortunate enough to be asked to write last year and that holds true; disappointment is a part of our life, it's a part of our experience, a part of our journey, you're going to face disappointment; disappoint with yourself, with others, with your community, your friends, your family, your partner, everybody and that's hard, but you can learn through it and you can persevere through, and you can continue to keep going forward and that's the thing, right? At the end of the day, go forward move forward, push yourself forward, step into what is next. Don't be stopped by disappointment because you I promise you if you get stopped by disappointment you will never have the life that you want.

The next disappointment is around the corner. I hate to break it to you.

You're not going to get that thing that you want today, but that doesn't mean you can't have it tomorrow or three years or 10 years or 15 years from now, but you're going to have to take massive ownership over what is to come.

So take this appointment and instead of letting it destroy you, look at it, simply and say I acknowledge and accept that this has happened and continue to move forward.

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Michael is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, speaker, coach, and advocate for adult survivors of childhood trauma.