This episode dives deep into healing sexual shame, embracing kink, and reclaiming your identity after trauma with somatic practitioner and educator Matthew Riven.
Description
In this powerful Think Unbroken conversation, Michael Unbroken and guest Matthew Riven unpack what it really takes to heal around sex, kink, and intimacy when you carry childhood trauma, religious conditioning, or years of silence and shame. You will hear how unspoken sexual wounds can quietly drive anxiety, disconnection, and self betrayal, and why bringing them into the light is a core part of becoming fully yourself.
They explore:
Why sex, sexuality, BDSM, and kink are central parts of being human, not things to hide in the shadows.
How religious and cultural narratives can program you to believe your desires are “wrong” or “dirty.”
The link between unresolved sexual trauma and feeling unseen, unsafe, or unworthy in adult relationships.
What healthy consent really looks like, including the “fuck no → fuck yes” spectrum and why “maybe” is always a no.
How to use your boundaries to actually find safe, trustworthy partners instead of repeating old patterns.
If you have ever wrestled with your sexuality, kink, or desires and wondered, “Is something wrong with me,” this episode will show you that you are not broken, you are human, and you can learn to own who you are mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually.
Timestamps
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0:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters if you grew up in shame
6:30 – The silence around sex in most therapy rooms
11:00 – How society shames out a core part of who we are
45:00 – Trauma, safety, and being truly seen by a partner
1:08:40 – The “fuck no / fuck yes” framework for consent and boundaries
Disclaimer
This show is for adults only and is not appropriate for children or minors. Nothing in this episode is medical, psychological, or legal advice; please work with qualified professionals for your specific situation.
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