Jan. 22, 2022

E187: Commit First Figure Out the Rest Later | CPTSD and Trauma Healing Coach

In this episode, I talk about committing first and figuring out the rest later. One of the things that you have to understand about being a trauma survivor is that we often try to revert to having game plans for everything to create a parameter of...
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In this episode, I talk about committing first and figuring out the rest later. One of the things that you have to understand about being a trauma survivor is that we often try to revert to having game plans for everything to create a parameter of safety in our lives before taking action.

Commit yourself to your goals and Stop making excuses.

Commit first and figure out the rest later; what does that really mean?

Find out! Listen and take a piece of paper and write down all the important lessons you learned today!

-Commit and Be Unbroken.

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Transcript

What's up, Unbroken Nation!

Want to take a minute here and say, first and foremost.

Thank you for listening, for subscribing, for being a part of this podcast, in this movement of The Unbroken Nation. You're always going to show you guys some love.

I want to read quickly review that popped in and unfortunately for some reason their name didn't show up.

So it is titled

Straightforward and practical.

Michaels no-nonsense approach to healing is a must here for people of any age in the world nowadays, but especially young people. His authenticity shows in the passion he speaks with, and like he says, his advice works and he gives it to the viewers with a step-by-step plan that listeners can apply today.

I love that, thank you so much like, that's what I always tell people.

That's the mission and the goals of this show to give you practical tools you can apply to today, not tomorrow, not next week, not a fucking year from now – today.

Look the truth about this is everything in your life is right here, it's right now, it's ready to happen, is ready to take place but you are waiting.

Let me tell you this…

The number one thing in my life that I apply to is this concept and you've heard me say it before, but I'm going to say it again.

Commit first and figure out the rest later.

One of the things things that you have to understand about being a trauma survivor is that often we try to revert to having game plans for everything to create a parameter of safety in our life before taking action. Look at the end of the day that's totally and completely reasonable, I don't think that anyone would ever argue with the fact that when we come from this hyper-vigilant state and we have to figure out how to navigate the world that in order to do it effectively we've needed game plans so that we can create safety, right? That's fine. I think we all can agree with that, the problem with that though is to some extent and especially depending on how deep into this that you actually go, you're actually going to turn into a massive procrastinator. And not only that you're going to impede all opportunity to create the future that you want, because everything is not perfect.

Commit first and figure out the rest later is something that you see all of the greatest people in the personal development in mind space, mindset, and entrepreneurial space and leadership space, in the family space, everyone who is successful at life, like really successful that I've ever looked up to or been mentored by, or studied or anything from Grant Cardone, to Tom Bilyeu, to Tony Robbins, to Marie Forleo, Rachel Hollis, it doesn't matter who it is, they all have the same thing and if you adapt this, I promise you, your life will be different.

Commit first and figure out the rest later, what does that really mean in a practical sense it means this? Right now, there's something in your life that you know, that you need to do but you're scared to do it because it feels like it's either daunting or too long or there's a lot happening. And of course, I always will tell you to set goals. I believe in that entirely set goals, and reverse engineer those goals and then start moving forward. When you commit to your goals, when you commit to what it is that you want in life because you have clarity about them and then you move forward with massive action, you will see over time that comes to fruition.

Let me give you an example.

So I get a message the other day from my homey and he's amazing, you heard me talk about them before, his name is Russ Yeager and Russ messages me, he's like, dude, you got to come to this speaking event in Atlanta, this is a week away from today. So this is real-time happening right now in this is last night he messages me, he's like, dude, you need to be here, you have to be here because this is one of the most important events of the year that you can be involved in. Figure it out and let me know.

And so I have some back forth with Russ just trying to get out the details. I don't know anything about the event, I never researched it, I never looked it up, nothing but he hits me up and he goes, dude, you need to be here. And so I looked at my calendar, I looked at my schedule and I was like, oh my gosh, there's so much going on but when someone in my life, who I trust tremendously, who I trust says, you need to be here, my first thought is how? How do I do it? What do I need to do? How can I commit? How can I I show up? What do I need to reschedule? What do I need to put earlier into my week? Later and to my week? How soon can I leave? Where's the hotel and I just start figuring it all out.

And the very first thing that I do in that is I buy the ticket. I don't even know where I'm staying, I don't know where the event is, I don't know how many get there, I don't know about the rental car, I don't know about anything except this I know what time I need to show up and I bought a plane ticket, that's it! That is 99.999% of this game.

Committing because the rest, it will figure itself out between me and my team and assistance and everyone else and friends. I can always figure out everything else and you can too, but you have to be willing to make a decision and show up for your life. I'm telling you show up for your life. Some of you right now, you're listening to this and you're like, man, I want to do that thing, I want to go to therapy, right? I want to get a coach, I want to read this book, I want to take that trip, I want to get out of this relationship or out of this career or into whatever is next to my life, I want to go practice, martial arts, right? I want to go painting, I want to dance, I want to feel joy and happiness, and love and empathy, and embrace other human beings of my life, you have got to commit to it, today you can commit to it.

I want you to do this for you because your life has nothing to do with my life. Let's just be very clear about that, I want you to do this for you. I want you to take a pen and I want you to take a piece of paper and I want you to just start writing down for the next five minutes just nothing else, except what you want to create in your life? What you want to do with your life? How you want to exist in your life? I want you to write them down and just look at and go. These are the things I want, I want happiness.

I'll give you some examples of what I wrote down today. I want happiness in a way that's fulfilling with people in my life who bring value to me. I want to lake house with a beautiful view that I can see the sunrise with floor-to-ceiling windows were in the morning I can sit down and make my coffee and sit in a den and write my next book. I want to speak all over the world all the time. I want to be a New York Times bestselling author and want to have the number one mental health and personal development podcast in the world. I want to be coached by the greatest Minds on planet Earth. I want to be wealthy so that I can have a lake house that I can put foster kids in, that I can take them from the streets, how I needed when I was a kid.

And look, the list goes on and on and on and what I always ask myself, is this what can I commit to today that moves me towards that? What do I need to do? How do I need to show up? How do I need to live my life? What do I need to do today to be in my own life? Because see you're waiting for your life to happen, you're watching television and dreaming about what could be, but I'm telling you what can be; what can be as the life that you want to have if you commit. Want to dance? Go to the dance class tonight, stop waiting for tomorrow. I promise you and your town there's a dance class tonight, I promise there is you have to find it and there's this thing called Google. Go get on it and figure it out. You want to write a book? Great! Go figure it out, there's YouTube, commit tonight. Watch a 20-minute video, plant the seed, start moving forward. You want to leave the relationship? You need to leave it today, not a month from now, not six months from now commit to your life. You want to quit the job? Do it right now. I'm telling you, quit your job because here's the difference. Now look, you should have safety and security and parameters like I get it right? I'm not trying to put you in a situation where you endanger your future, but think about it, right?

How much longer you going to put off the decision?

How much longer are you going to wait till you, make the choice?

How much longer until you're going to step up to your own fucking life?

Because nobody's come guys, I'm telling you, I wish you would just hold on to this and if you do everything will be different. Nobody's coming to rescue you, there's no Disney moment. I wish there was, I wish I could hand you that we should hand your future. I wish my future would just show up. I wish I was speaking on stage with Tony Robbins right now one of my tenure goals, I wish that was happening right now. It's not happening yet, but I commit to it by taking the actions every single day, by moving closer to it. I try to be a better speaker, I learned from other speakers, I go to events, I host events, I speak out of events. I do all the things that I think I need to do by getting an alignment to be prepared because luck never comes to lucky people, luck comes to the prepared.

And so when you commit to your life luck will start to follow you.

The universe is always conspiring in your favor, I know you've heard that said before, I know you've read The Alchemist, I told you read that book a long time ago, but it only conspires in your favor when you commit to the life you want to create and yes, unfortunately, part of this is making hard and very, very difficult decisions.

Maybe you got to pack up and move.

Maybe you got to leave the relationship.

Maybe you gotta quit the job but maybe you got to start the side hustle and work from 7 a.m. to 2 p.m., right? Because you work afternoons, you work second shift right now, right?

Maybe it means you got to take better care of yourself so you can take better care of your children, right? Can you commit to walking a mile today? Because you haven't walked a mile in two years, right? I mean, the list goes on and on and on.

Get your goals figured out. Sit down.

I'll talk to you guys about goals all the time but when you look at them and you bring clarity to them and then you just simply say, I'm going to commit, one thing that I can do in my life today to what's next, on a long enough time line everything you want will be yours, but you got to show up for life, my friends.

Unbroken Nation, thank you so much for listening.

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And Until Next Time.

My Friends, Be Unbroken.

-I'll see you.

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Michael is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, speaker, coach, and advocate for adult survivors of childhood trauma.