Why 2026 Will Be YOUR Year | Powerful Motivation For Success and Life

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[SPEAKER_00]: If you've been trying to figure out how to actually have a good year this year, I want you to watch what I'm about to talk about or listen for that matter, because I've been thinking a lot today about a few different things, about commitment, about execution, about beliefs, and ultimately about, like, how do you actually show up for yourself?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And full context, this is really more of a me talking to me, kind of conversation right here,

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm putting this out for a couple of reasons one.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I made a commitment to myself that I would get back into creating content.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Content that would hopefully help people and also help myself because sometimes I'm just talking to myself as I'm recording these and trying to figure out in the process my own life and my own problems.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And the truth is, like, I don't know everything.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And what I don't know sometimes blinds sides me, but what I do know has served me really well.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I hope that I can give you some things that will serve you really well.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Also, one of the things that I decided for 2026 is that I'm going to be releasing this kind of content every single day.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you like it, I hope that you will support it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, cool.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to do it anyway.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, think about 2026.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to create some context, especially if you don't know who I am.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I also want to create the context as kind of reminder to myself because last year, 2025 was like the hardest year of my life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, bar none minus a complete mental breakdown that I had when I was like 28 29 somewhere that would go and so 20 25 just kind of kicked my ass up and down left and right over and over, but here we are in 2026 and so you can't really bring that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: into now because it's not going to serve you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, it's going to hinder you and I think that we have to remember sometimes that we can do hard things, that we can survive hard things, that we can make it through circumstances that we didn't maybe think we were going to survive, that we have the ability to show up and live our life on our terms and we have the ability to execute and and really become that person we think that we're capable of being.

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[SPEAKER_00]: like that's one of the most amazing things about life in this journey and the time that we live and like you can be the person that you want to be.

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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're willing to be that person and there are times where to tell you the truth, sometimes I'm not.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're like damn, do I even want this?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I really feel like I'm capable of having this?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I deserve this?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Do I feel like I have

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so much of our journey in mine, especially has been reframing this self narrative about what I am and am not allotted in this life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Then I don't mean just financially.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean that's great, sure.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm talking about in day to day, success and love and friendship and compassion and empathy and care.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and all so many of the things that we get denied all the time, especially if you grow up like me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean, I grew up in one of the most chaotic environments you can imagine.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Mom was a drug addict in alcoholic, stepped out with super abusive, grandmother was racist, and I'm biracial, you know, dealing with having a learning disability and getting in fights in school and kicked out and

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was homeless from 8 to 12 years old, and I just saw the worst of people constantly.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then on top of that, they told me things about who they thought I was based on who I was as a child, that I wasn't smart, that I wasn't important, that I was never going to make it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I haven't had a teacher tell me good luck in prison once, right, and all fairness.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that she was just tired of me, but

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I can understand it as an adult, but looking in that moment as a kid, I'm like, well, my friends are going to prison.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I have family in prison.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I guess it only makes sense that I'm going to prison too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I didn't kill anyone.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Luckily, thank God.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I didn't kill myself, and I didn't hurt people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: after a certain point anyway, because, you know, I was violent kid.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, I've suffered a lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I've also looked at the amazing things out of a complex.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I've literally been on billboards in Times Square.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've written a best-selling book of written three books now, I'm working on my fourth.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've traveled the entire world.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been at so many places it's insane.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've helped a lot of people, but I've also made horrible mistakes in that time, too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've destroyed relationships and friendships and business opportunities, and I've had to catch myself losing confidence, and I've had to get myself unstuck from losing momentum and then having momentum into the wrong things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've found myself on the verge of twing with different addictions and different things that are part of my personality that make me want to burn down the world.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And yet, I sit here and I think to myself, okay, well, can I just try again?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's the thing that we always forget.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like if there's a clock on the wall of the game of life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that scoreboard has not hit zero yet.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You have an opportunity still.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And look, and there's parts of me too, like I am reddled.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I wish there was an ease way to explain this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I am reddled with self-doubt.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I am reddled with imposter syndrome.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I am reddled with I am not worthy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It is in my blood, it is in my DNA, it is in my family, it is in my community, it is in everything that I come from.

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[SPEAKER_00]: but I kept just trying to go forward anyway and even in this moment I'm coming off the backside of the worst year of my life it's January 1st and I said I'm going to come out here and put myself in the world and do this again because why not?

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[SPEAKER_00]: I still have a clock that has time left.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The game's not over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The way I see it, I just came out a half time, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: So let's say that I live to him 80, fingers crossed.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That would make me super happy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm 40, half time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: For some of you guys, you're just coming out of the first quarter.

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[SPEAKER_00]: For some of you, maybe you're going out of quarter three and end a quarter four.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They're still time, as long as you're alive, they're still time, but it doesn't work if you don't show up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Then it's scary.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yo, it's scary because a lot of times I'm scared.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, what are you doing, man?

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[SPEAKER_00]: You just spent all that money on this thing and you went to speak on that stage and you hired that therapist and you broke up and ended that relationship and then you started that one and then you worked on this business and then you joined that gym and you moved to that city and you did all these things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes look at those things and I think to myself, you are out of your freaking mind.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You should have just stayed in Indiana, got married at 22, had some kids in a relationship you didn't want to be in, gain 150 pounds again, sit around drink beer with your buddy, smoke cigarettes, and die when you're 50.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That would have been way easier than this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That would have been way easier than this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I would have given up on myself and my dreams.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And there have been times where I have because it's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, yo, it's hard for me too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've again, man, I've spoken on stages in front of freakin' 10,000 people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've spoken on stages in front of two people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's still hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm re-learning the business because I've been away for a couple of years.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I got another coach because life wasn't working how I wanted it to work.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going back into therapy because damn I got more issues.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm back in dating.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm in a city that I don't know how to be in some exploring the world again.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And guess what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: So choose your hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Choose your heart, choose the difficulty in your life that you're so scared of because if you choose that, you might actually feel a life for once.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's the truth of you might actually be a human being for once.

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[SPEAKER_00]: If you actually go challenge yourself to see what you're made of.

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[SPEAKER_00]: not to sit and cower and hide and fall into the old trappings and behaviors of somebody who's scared, you know, you want to be scared, stay in Indiana, you want to be scared, throw in the towel and I have a lot of empathy for people who are struggling right now because guess what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm one of

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[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of empathy for people who grew up with crazy insane parents who didn't take care of them or love them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Guess what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm one of them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, they're so much in this journey that I relate to, and I'm not trying to talk like I'm on high because I'm not, I'm just like trying to figure it out like you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But here's what I know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And people have asked me many times over the year, like, how did you make it out?

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[SPEAKER_00]: How did you figure this out?

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[SPEAKER_00]: How did you write these books?

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[SPEAKER_00]: How did you speak on these stages and start this podcast in another channel and another thing over here?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm willing to fail a lot all the time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, so much that I'm so used to it now and I'm so used to rejection that it never bothers me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've tried to launch a few different things over the last couple years that crashed in burn.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was just like, I don't know what it likes this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't even like, I don't know why I tried it, but I wanted to try it, so it's curious.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So let me see what happens.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the secret.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like we're starting in 2026 and I said to myself, what do I want this year to look like?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I said a couple of things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: One of those things was that I wanted to show up for me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The best my life has ever been is when I show up for me, unequivocally, top to bottom, first, by the way, first, me, number one.

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[SPEAKER_00]: When you do that, when you're like, I'm number one, me, and not in a selfish way, not in this like hurting or taking away from others way, but in this way that is about you giving yourself what you need.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Your life will be so much better.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I put myself second for too long.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've done that in a lot of ways because sometimes you have to.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you just get lost in the sauce of life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then sometimes you're sitting on a beach in front of a giant beautiful hotel and you're like, what is my life?

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and that's true, and I've had the best in the worst of life, I've gotten to help hundreds of thousands, if not millions of people at this point through the Think Unbroken podcast and tens of thousands of people have read my book and guess what, I'm still making mistakes, I'm still learning, I'm still screwing up, but I get back up because it's only half time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and I put myself back in the game.

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[SPEAKER_00]: If you don't put yourself back in the game, you cannot win the game.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you've got to be on the bench, sometimes you're injured, sometimes you've got to get sucked out, you tore a knee, you heard an ankle, you popped an elbow, you know, you went through the breakup, you lost the job, you moved to the new city and you feel stuck, you got lost in the thing that you thought you loved, time out.

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[SPEAKER_00]: What do we need to do here?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Who's the athletic trainer?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Who's the coach we need to get with?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Who's the person in the stands that has the extra bottle of water?

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, there's something about the when you lean into the suffering and you look at it and you acknowledge it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And like that's where it changes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, man, my life is not working right now.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to pull myself out of the game.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That was me for two years, deeply burned out.

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[SPEAKER_00]: built multiple seven figure companies, traveled all over the world, all over America.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Spoke on stages big and small, interviewed some of the greatest minds on planet Earth.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Got to connect with people behind the scenes and industries where they make a million dollars a day.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Some of these guys can make a million dollars an hour.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've seen them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've met them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been with them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I've been on the other side of it where I'm like, man, I don't have two nickels to rub together, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: All in the span of this last decade, and the thing that I keep thinking about is like, okay, you invested, you showed up, you tried, you failed, guess what, get up, do it again.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Dust yourself off.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody's going to come and knock on that door and get you out of bed and say, go to the gym.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody's going to come to you at the office when you're getting ready to go to have beers when you should know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know you should be working on your side hustle and nobody's going to grab you and buy the collar and say, get your life together.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody's going to wake you up from the life that you're living to go and have the life that you want.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not going to happen.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Not ever, ever, ever, ever.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The only person that gets to do that is you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I'm sitting here and I can have time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Have time, have time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Get back in the game.

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[SPEAKER_00]: get back in the game here we go right coach put me back in here's a craze part you're also the coach you're the coach you're the player you're the GM you're the scout you're the recruiter you're the you're the everything I mean sure you need a team you need support system something that is along the lines of those around you when your relationships and your friendships and your employment all of those things like those things matter but guess what

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[SPEAKER_00]: you got to put the laces back in the shoe, tie those bad boys up and step on the court.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you don't, here's what happens.

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is what I think about.

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is the thing I'm haunted by.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It really actually bothers me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like in my soul, it bothers me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's such a weird thing because it's the only thing in the world, really that bothers me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot that I can let go of and I've learned to be masterful at letting go I've learned to be masterful sometimes too much so at being stoic But the thing that I just feel like this It feels like a fire kind of where it's like man.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I can touch it and I know that

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[SPEAKER_00]: Every single day I don't move towards it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It kind of starts to go away And that's this idea.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's an idea that I think about all the time around what it means to actually have lived a good life in a full life And it is this that you left it all on the court That you played the game to the best of your ability and yes, you're gonna take elves and yes You're gonna get banged up and yes, sometimes you're gonna miss the game winning shot, but you get in the game

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you show up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, I did that burns at me as the idea of regret.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not the first guy to talk about this by the way.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But the way that I see it, it's like if I can have all the suffering that I had growing up and all the losses and all the hurt, why can't I have the beauty in life?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And some of us need to understand that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you can have the beauty that this life has to offer.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But you have to go and get it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you like have to actually take it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I wish that it could be handed to you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I wish I could hand you, I love you, I'm proud of you, I'm sorry you suffered, I'm sorry people hurt you, I'm sorry you beat yourself up for the mistakes that you make, I'm sorry that you feel lost in the world and like nobody cares.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And if I could like hand that to you and you could feel it in your soul, I would.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But so much of that has to come from you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you being willing to accept to you are as you are, imperfect as you are, and being like I accept.

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[SPEAKER_00]: doesn't mean I won't work.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean I'm going to let myself skate by.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It just means that I'm going to look at it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to acknowledge it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to accept it and then I'm going to take action.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I call that the AAA.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I spend time coaching some of the greatest people in the world and it all comes down to this because it's the same tool that I use to get out of the spaces that I've been stuck in for so long and it's called the AAA.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You first look at your life and you bring awareness to it because it's in that acknowledgement and that awareness that you can actually start to do anything because without that, go luck.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then the hardest part, and this is where you're probably going to need help.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You need to work with a coach or work with a therapist or work with a group or go to an AA meeting.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever that looks like it looks like this, it's very simple.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You acknowledge it, and then you accept it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: the acceptance is so difficult.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push it away.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away my mother cutting my finger off.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away, never meeting my father.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away my grandmother be litling me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away living in strangers, houses, and vans, and rat and fested living rooms and winters with no heat and blankets with holes in them and bullets in the wall.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push it away.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away the murders of my best friends.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away my family and prison.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to push away all the teachers that said I could never do anything with my life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I accept that that happened.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And the crazy part about the acceptance, it doesn't mean you're not important.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean you don't matter.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean you're not capable of being loved.

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[SPEAKER_00]: What it means is that you look at it for what it is.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's where you start to create freedom in your life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You look at this and you go, yes, this happened.

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[SPEAKER_00]: If you do that, if you take that piece of the puzzle into account, as arguably the most important of the AAA, the thing that will happen is you begin to step into the trajectory of creating life on your terms, but this is where it gets tricky.

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[SPEAKER_00]: because without action, none of this works.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Without action, your life will not be different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Without action, you will look back and that thing that feels so awful some, this idea that on your deathbed, the last words that come out of your mouth are regret.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Without action, nothing else works.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and you have to be willing to just go for it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what the it is in your life right now, for me, the it right now is like I got to put myself back out there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's kind of like a championship fighter, you know, I feel like I was on top of the world for a minute there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I had, I had the gold strap, I was getting it, I was flying first class and private.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was in the best hotels, I was on the stage, I was shaking hands and rubbing elbows and cutting into steak.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and then I burnt out and I hit the ground hard and I suffered and I felt lost and I struggled because I did the things that people said I could never do and then I didn't know what to do anymore.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I was like, you know what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Every fighter who's as confident it's only gets it back by one thing, you got to get back in the game, homie.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You got to step back on those stages and get on the ring.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You got to be back in this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You've got to force it the discomfort, the discomfort of this moment.

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[SPEAKER_00]: be in it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Man, oh my God, I haven't done this in so long, where it's like this real show up and live, because I'm called to this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I think about so much of our journey is about being willing to honor our mission, like

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[SPEAKER_00]: honoring your mission means like you hit record there's no frills here there's no we're not editing this there's no whatever it is that it is that makes people watch your videos with the changing scenes every two seconds because you have ADHD and sounds and all the extra stuff this is me raw with you because it is in this where I'm like man this is the game

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[SPEAKER_00]: I said I was going to do this thing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care if it's nine ten PM.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know get it done I said I'm going to do it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you willing to commit to yourself?

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's so hard as part.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you commit to yourself even though you're not perfect?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you commit to yourself even though you've made horrible mistakes?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you commit to yourself even though you're lost?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you commit to yourself when you're standing in front of the mirror and you're like, I don't know what to do right now, but can you commit to a step to tying the laces on those shoes to putting one foot on the court and to stepping into it and being like half times over, it's time to get back in the game.

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[SPEAKER_00]: half times over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to take care of myself, half times over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to get that therapist, half times over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to have that conversation with my mom, half times over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to break up with this guy, half times over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to go and write that blood, half times over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, because, you know, I don't know where you're at in your life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be between periods.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we're going three to four for some people, one to two for others.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know where you are.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know where you are.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what's happening in your life, but I know that if there are still time on the billboard, you have to get in the game.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I never forget this, my senior year of high school.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was in this wrestling tournament.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We were wrestling in this town called Westfield.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I grew up in India, Indianapolis.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I grew up in the city.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I went to Northwest High School, which was called a dropout factory.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's one of the worst schools in America.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And it was predominantly a school of kids of color.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Westfield, middle of nowhere, corn in Indiana, number of white boys.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we're in this tournament.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I won my first match.

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[SPEAKER_00]: My second match was against the kid who went to Westfield High School.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, at this point, I was definitely on my way to having a great run.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was probably going to win that tournament.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'd want a couple other that season.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and run the second period.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm dominating this kid and I have him in a pen.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Back against the mat and at this juncture you expect the ref to slam his hand onto the mat, call the match for my victory.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I had this boy on his back, pinned for over a minute, ref would not call the victory.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And my coach was respect by the way, lost his freaking mind.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I lost that match because the ref, in the third period, counted a point against me for a foul.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I did not commit later that day that kid from Westfield.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He won that match.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I got third place because I lost my wrestle back because I got in my head.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we're on the bus going back and there's tension.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody's upset.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm upset, coaches upset.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They have the Russell Europe set.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're all upset and he stands up in the bus and he looks at us.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And he said one of the most incredibly profound things that anyone ever said to me at this point in my life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He goes, guys, you can't fight racism.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Only thing that you can do is keep your chin up and fight tomorrow.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that season was the best season of wrestling I had end up going and doing fairly well.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I think about that a lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't fight whatever the systematic problem is that you think that's in your life, but you can go and fight for you today.

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[SPEAKER_00]: To get back in the game, to say, you know what, I took my L. What are you gonna do?

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[SPEAKER_00]: You gotta let go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You've got acknowledgement and acceptance and action, and that's all we got in life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you follow that, like, you get to have an amazing experience, so I think about

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[SPEAKER_00]: 2026 and the promise I made to myself, it's show up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Be vulnerable.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Tell the truth.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Fall in love.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Make more money.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Speak on more stages.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Get more fit.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Be more friendly.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Be more connected to my family.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Be a great friend.

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[SPEAKER_00]: A great entrepreneur.

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[SPEAKER_00]: A great leader.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Ask for help more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Show up more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Exist more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Play more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Enjoy more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Put a vacation on the freaking calendar more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And last year was the worst year of my life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I made a decision.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm a person that when I make a decision, I mean, I've done really good at following through.

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[SPEAKER_00]: In the decision I made, I said 2020 is next is gonna be the best year of my life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Every day is going to be the best day of my life.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because it's Q3, it's quarter three.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're getting in here, half time is over.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It is time to go and ball.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It is time to go and win.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to just show up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to tell you right now, I'm going to miss, I'm going to miss shots this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to miss layups this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to miss dunks this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to miss passes this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to get text this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to cost too much this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to get flopped on this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I can promise you at the end of this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm putting up a championship trophy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you can too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I promise you that you can, but you have to want it, and you have to be able to sit in the discomfort of the moment of the truth of the life that you want and execute anyway, because that my friends, what champions do.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've had these moments of being a champion of like standing in it, of looking at it and be like, wow, my face is on times where billboard, wow, I wrote a bestselling book, wow, I just spoke with this guy in Matt Girl and that person joined the coaching program and I traveled into that place and I've done those things and I want more because I don't think I've met my full potential yet, especially not after the last two years.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't think that you have either.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think you're even close.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And guess what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: You still got time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the best part of this journey.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Move it up that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't really anticipate spending 30 minutes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Jamen.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I did it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not how I thought tonight was going to go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was just, I'm going to talk about the things I want to do in 2026.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But the last here we are.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I love you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Take care of yourself this year.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Take care of each other.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Until next time my friends, be on broken.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll see ya.